I laughed out loud when Evan called brilliant men stubborn, arrogant, and neurotic. Ladies, assuming that a nerd is a socially awkward adult, why would you want to spend time with such a person? I work in the IT field and I find dealing with socially awkward people exhausting. What attracts you about these people? For me, I date socially awkward men because I am also very socially awkward.
Strength and confidence in someone similar to me. But, awkward people do not seem to take for granted what socially adept folks do. I think I like them because they are sort of non-threatening. I particularly love shy guys. Most of them are not, IMO, socially awkward, but perhaps we are using different definitions? Steve 7 — Ha ha! You asked good questions. They can fix things for you.
There are plenty of smart people who are not socially awkward i. I was a nerd when I was younger, and am still attracted to nerds, But, at the risk of sounding unsympathetic, I suggest that trying to date a person who lacks social and dating skills is doomed to failure.
Especially considering the strength of the male sex drive, a man who has not developed the skills for successful dating, it is unlikely that you, despite your wonderful qualities, will overcome his inability to enter a relationship. If you do succeed, you will have to go through the agony of his learning how to be good relationship material. Think about what it is about the nerds that attracts you and seek men with those characteristics.
I like the sense of innocence, which is harder to find in someone who has assumed their place in adult socializing, but they do exist. Keep looking there are many men out there looking for you. Good luck! And much of it is true. I agree w Roger. I also find that many guys who used to be nerds but went on to have successful careers and now feel they are entitled to date only women who look like supermodels.
We should start a support group together…. I actually think Evan presented a unique and right on opinion on this. And one that I never thought of myself. I usually like nerdy types to. But not nerdy-virgins that live at home types. I guess just more geek chic. However, it makes sense that nerdy guys might be more led to think in fantasy mode and set unrealisitic standards. Yet Easterners have a far far lower divorce rate. How to explain this? Yes, there was a taboo against divorce for a long time.
Yet, not every Eastern marriage was, surely, unhappy. The people who never were in relationships learned by being with each other. And I was fool enough to mary one and have what I thought was 25 great years and a couple of wonderful children. I guess I could dump my girlfriend of the last 18 months and go for somebody really hot looking. I think looks are terribly over-rated. No longer in my 20s, I can assure you, looks are not that long lasting. Skin wrinkles, things begin to sag… What does last is simple things like, are they fun to hang out with, do they treat you with respect?
I believe the people who look really hot online are no hotter than the rest. Your feeling is simply your hormones attaching to a picture with no actual physical experience. You have no way of knowing how hot they will be when you meet them. Online or in person, the hot looks are just like any other advertising-a come on that may not deliver the inner beauty that makes a person shine for a lifetime.
JG 17, I agree. The gal gets just as disappointed eithher way. My dad just found a job that he was capable of that paid a decent salary and did it. Nowadays we expect to have it all — which is possible, but takes a lot more work and initiative and compromise than people realize.
Nerds are appealing because they are interested in something besides money, sex, and themselves. They might be delighted by philosophy, physics, astronomy, engineering, biology, math….
I am strongly attracted to people — both men AND women — who have a passionate interest and aptitude in an intellectual or artistic field. Every single man I dated in the past was a nerd. My husband is a nerd.
I am a nerd. Now our kids will ideally have their PhDs before having sex. She sounds extraverted. A man with decent, maybe slightly unusual style who radiates a sort of quiet warmth might be her best option.
I look at shut in nerds the same way I look at monosyllabic frat boys. Their life lacks balance. I learned that early on. I spent early high school with my nose in the books and video games. I spent late high school stoned and drunk, continually partying. This letter is for all those moments when you are extremely amused by your own choice in men, not just any kind, the ones who are particularly into their own bookish knowledge and make for some great conversations.
Kyunki passionate, deep conversations ke beech kab pyaar ho gaya, pata hi nahi chala! We might be grossly generalizing here but nerdy men have often been associated with more timid, reserved personalities. Nerdy boys are different. It shows that you are willing to go into detail about things that pique your curiosity. It shows that one can be dedicated and disciplined about their passions.
ET Secure IT. Panache Tech and Gadgets. Panache People City Life. ET Magazine. Rate Story. Font Size Abc Small. Abc Medium. Abc Large. A woman, however, is over dating a bad boys and instead wants to date someone with whom she can have an intelligent conversation with. Geeks, dorks and nerds also tend to be passionate in their life pursuits. Under the lens NFRA member under lens for audit gaps in fraud-hit firm; cloud over selection process for regulatory posts.
0コメント